Madonna once said - "Poor is the man whose pleasures depend on the permission of another."  

I find this quite interesting.  For one that Madonna said it...And, for another, that it is so simple and true. 

Which leads me to ask,"Why do people let themselves get in this position?"    I have recently met people who continue to talk about how they wish they could...., or I really want...., or If I could only...., but when I probe further I get answers like...  My spouse would hit the roof, or my significant other says I shouldn't, or my family wouldn't understand.  

I know one person that can only spend time with friends when either her other half is at work, or out with friends....  I DON'T GET IT!   I guess the thought of confrontation is too much for her, or that the benefits of the relationship out way the conflict that would ensue if she did what she wanted.   How can you truly care for someone that puts you in a box?  How do you grow as a person? How do you ever find personal satisfaction and happiness?  

Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against relationships that are truly caring, growing relationships benefitting BOTH parties.  They help each party grow, develop and become better people.  I just find that many relationships these days are based on fear of being alone, or being scared to really live life.  

Sure life is hard, and scary, and wonderful, and exhilarating, but you have to experience that on your own before you can truly be an equal in any relationship.
  ¶ 6:51 PM