Relationships are quite possibly the most complicated things on the earth. We do our best to break them down and simplify them but there are so many variables that it extremely difficult to do.

Love is such a small part of it all. Love in many ways often serves as a complication. You love someone and want to be with them so you allow yourself to stay regardless of the things that are wrong, the needs that are left unfulfilled. Your dream is that they will suddenly want to fulfill those dreams. Things will change. You will be happy with them and love will prevail.

This thinking gets many of us in trouble. Yet it's because we love. The conflict eventually arises out of love for ourselves and love for this other person. This is when we do one of three things, we leave, we ask our partner to fill our needs, or we do the unthinkable and find someone else on the side who will fill our needs.

You see we are all human. All of our "relationship sins" can be easily broken down and explained. Even complicated relationships and all their variables can really be broken down dissected and finally understood.

Relationships revolve around needs. Often when we leave one relationship our next relationship fulfills the need that went missing in the first relationship. The reason for this is that we have identified the need and attracted it to ourselves. So if she cheated on you in the first relationship and you discovered how important it was to you to have her be faithful then your next girl probably will be. And if he didn't like to spend enough time with you in the first relationship and that really hurt you and you identified your need to yourself then the next relationship will probably offer a guy who loves spending time with you. It's really all about understanding and identifying what we need and want.

What complicates this is our sexual drive and the emotional baggage that most of us carry. As long as you are carrying baggage you will not truly be able to account for all of your needs. That baggage can make you feel like you deserve less and clouds many things. Or your baggage can make you have unreal expectations and expect far too much from your partner.

Sorting through that baggage is crucial and one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself! So dig out those bags, throw them up on the bed open the latches and start sorting! Most of that stuff doesn't fit you anymore anyway. Take it to the dump and finally have your suitcase open and ready for a fulfilling relationship just like you desire!  ¶ 1:46 PM